Is Your Body Holding On to What You’ve Tried to Forget?

ShaunaSoul
Apr 30
3 min read

Sis, let me ask you something.

Have you ever wondered why you feel stuck—like you’re carrying invisible weights on your shoulders, clenching your jaw without realizing it, or holding your breath through the day like you’re bracing for something?

I’ve been there. For so many of us, especially Black women over 40, survival mode becomes the norm. We normalize the fatigue, the tightness, the “I’m fine” mask—until our bodies start speaking louder than our words.

But here’s the truth:

Your body isn’t just tense. It’s talking to you.

And the more we ignore it, the more it keeps the score.

What Science Tells Us

According to the American Psychological Association, over 77% of people regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress—and most of us don’t connect it back to the root: unresolved trauma, stored emotions, and a nervous system stuck in survival.

Let’s break it down, Body Flow style:

✨ Jaw & Face — Repressed Rage

Tight jaw? Headaches? Grinding your teeth at night? You might be holding back more than tension. The masseter muscle stores frustration and rage—especially when you’ve been taught to stay quiet to stay safe.

🧠 Stat: Jaw tension and teeth grinding affect up to 31% of adults under chronic stress.

✨ Neck & Shoulders — Emotional Armor

That constant “on guard” feeling? The pain in your neck or those tension headaches? This is the weight of emotional labor and protective posturing. You’ve been holding it all together for everyone.

But sis, you weren’t designed to carry the world on your back.

✨ Hips & Pelvis — Buried Fear

The psoas muscle—your “fight or flight” center—holds some of your deepest emotional memory. If you’ve experienced trauma around safety, intimacy, or autonomy, your hips might be holding the aftermath.

✨ Throat — Silenced Truths

Tight throat? Struggling to express yourself? Your voice matters. But when it hasn’t felt safe to speak up, your larynx remembers. It stores every word swallowed, every cry stifled.

✨ Gut — Emotional Digestion

Do you ever feel anxious and bloated for “no reason”? Your second brain—your gut—is always trying to process what your heart and mind couldn’t. IBS, nausea, digestive issues? That’s not random.

🧠 Stat: Up to 60% of women with gut issues report a trauma history, per Harvard Health.

✨ Heart & Lungs — Held Grief

That ache in your chest. The shallow breath. The sighs that come from nowhere. This is the residue of grief—losses named and unnamed. It’s the heartbreak we were never taught how to heal.

These aren’t just symptoms. They’re sacred signals.

Your body is your ally—not your enemy.

And that’s where The Body Flow Method™ comes in.

🌿 What Is the Body Flow Method?

It’s my signature, trauma-informed somatic healing program that helps you:

Release the pain your body is holding
Rewire your nervous system with gentleness and safety
Reconnect with your inner voice, boundaries, and desires
Reclaim joy, movement, and radiance from the inside out

We use tools like:

Vagal toning and breathwork
Grounding meditations and movement
Emotional release and visualization
Body-first mindset rewiring
Somatic dance and self-healing rituals

All rooted in faith, science, and the power of embodied safety.

🌺 You Deserve to Feel Safe in Your Body Again

Healing starts when you stop pushing through and start listening.

If this speaks to you, it’s time to take that next step—not because something’s broken, but because you’re finally choosing YOU.

✨ Download my free guide to get started.✨ Join the Body Flow Method™ and experience full-body healing at the pace your nervous system needs.✨ Your flow begins when your body feels safe.

You're not too late. You're right on time.

And you don’t have to do this alone anymore.